I just want to lay this all out for you before I start talking about body image issues, at the time of writing I am a good size 14 – although this could all change on Friday night because I have a date with Dominoes….. Anyway have you now got an image in your mind of a slightly chubby Mum, in her PJ’s eating pizza and sipping a bottle of Bud? Great, that’s exactly what I’m going for – now we can begin…..
I have never in my life been on a diet, never and so yes inevitably, I am always going to be just a little bit fat. I’m alright about this and I believe that everyone near and dear to me is alright about it too.
It would appear, however that society is not. Thin is what is in fashion, it is the image that is subconsciously beamed into our brains everyday and it is the body type for which women in the Western World must aspire.
So when I see articles like this, I get excited ‘what are girls my size wearing? would it work for me? where can I buy it?’. I thought I’d be reading a really positive article about how no matter your shape or size – you can still be fashionable, attractive and sophisticated. Instead I got something else, something pretty negative and something that has missed the point entirely. This article in its desperate attempt to praise a larger body type, has gone about it by bashing the polar opposite.
Why in order to celebrate one type of women, must we berate another?
So now we’re saying that thin women are ugly?
Can we not have two different types of women and hold them in equal regard? Why do we, as women feel the need to compete and judge each other?
The funny thing for me about all this though, is that when I was at my ‘healthiest’ in terms of body weight, I was also at my ‘unhealthiest’ in terms of mental wellness. Six years ago when I was a Size 10 and had a nice all round healthy BMI verdict, I was miserable as fuck and had no clue who I was or where I was going. I look back at photos of myself and I think ‘yes, you do look skinny but you were so very sad and so incredibly stressed out’.
I think that what I’m getting at is, just because someone is thin or fat or somewhere in between it is not conducive to who they are, how they are or what they are feeling.
I’m currently a bit fat, which implies I’m unhappy right? But I reckon I’m the happiest I’ve been with myself in a decade. I’m well loved, well fed and pretty contented with my lot.
So don’t worry too much about all this fat, thin, thigh gap crap. If you like you, other people will like you – just the way you are.